I normally don’t write about personal stuff but I’m curious about what other women think about this matter. Do you believe in the biological clock? Do you think the body sends messages and lets you know OK it’s time for a baby?
I have a wonderful 5 year old boy that is my world and my buddy!! When I was ready 5 years ago to have him it was planted in my mind to have kids before I was thirty. I got pregnant really fast but the whole pregnancy was not a joy. My blood pressure started to rise and I had to take meds to keep it under wraps and then right at 37 weeks my Dr. said I’ll see you tomorrow at three o’clock. I said "for a checkup?" he said no "to have your son!" I was in shocked but at 37 weeks I developed preeclampsia and by the time my emergency C-section came my blood pressure was 223 over 280…not good. But my little man was fine the whole time and came out in the world ready to go at 5lbs and very healthy.
Fast forward to now and as I have a birthday coming up in August I will be 35. In the last month my mind has started to scream "have another child hurry before it’s too late". This is all I think about. Everywhere I look I see babies and pregnant woman. I worry if I will be in the same boat again if I become pregnant. I feel like I need to hurry and make a choice before it’s too late. Has anyone had children after 35? In my mind I worry if something ever happen to me and my husband later in life that my son would have no one to be by his side. I don’t want him to be alone. I’m I losing my mind???
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As a mother to an only child who just turned 18,I feel where did all that time go? 18 years went by in a wink of an eye.At the time we were very content with one child and happy God gave us this wonderful gift. Now I think of what we missed out by not having another child, however we were not able to. I guess that was God's plan for us.
You are not crazy...it's the woman in us that makes us think that. I have an only child and I am very happy--I wish he were a twin! I think what you are going through is quite natural for a woman that wants more children. My girlfriend had her second child at 41 and he is fine. :)
I totally no how you feel. I told myself that I would not have kids after 30. And I will be turning 30 this Sept. Yikes. About 13 of my friends are pregnant, and I kind of feel like my time is running out. I wonder if it may be that biological clock thing. But I guess it will happen when it happens.
Thank you lady's for all your comments and your thoughts!! I've taken each one to heart :)
Renee, I totally understand what you are feeling. I'm 43 and I still want another one! I was 37 when my twin girls were born. Like you, I went into preeclampsia and my girls were delivered by emergency c-section at 33.5 weeks. Though they spent three weeks in the NICU before I could bring them home, once they came home and started thriving, they suffered no ill effects from their early arrival. Keep in mind I was pregnant with twins at 37 though! Most multiples arrive early. Having a baby in your late 30's is very common these days. Many of my college friends have had their children in their late 30's and both mama and baby came through perfectly fine. My best friend Becky married at 40 and got pregnant at 41. She now has a wonderful little two year old! She was 42 when she delivered. Follow your heart and just leave it in God's hands. He'll steer you straight every time. :-)
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